Each individual is different. No matter how much we try and copy we cannot be like someone else. But, yes we can learn from others and imbibe those things in ourselves. No this does not mean to copy and change from what we are. It means you take that learning experience and adorn it into your own personality.
I've a group of friends from old college days. When we were young and stayign together in hostel our lives were entwined. Today we all are grown up and married. We all have our own families and our own social crowd. One has been married for now close to 10 years and has a 5 year old son. She appears all settled and is very poised. The other has been married close to 4 years (I guess). She is living life at her own terms. Does have some ups and downs. Managing herself in a joint - rich family. She is very simple by heart. Another one is been married for 2.5 years now. Has a new born baby and is all settled in US. She is still head strong and is not very emotional or open about her feelings. And lastly, it's me. I've been married for again 2.5 years and have been a mix of all the above.
Yesterday I met them after a long gap and I felt I've lost the social touch. I've lost the way of talking to people. I went into a low phase and then in a retrospective phase. I wonder what was wrong with me? Is it because I've not had a social crowd? Is it because for the past 10 years I've been mainly dealing with boys/men? or Is it that I've always been bad at conversation.
I still am trying to figure that out, but also taking an extra step of being cautious of what I speak and how I speak. Now I'm a married lady and I should be behaving like one. I've to weigh each and every word I say. Not be too out spoken and also not speak much about myself. I guess that should help me work on my communication skills for some time.
Another conclusion I've been able to draw is that we are all unique. So I should be proud of who I am and not try and change and become someone else. I think I can manage that!!
